Let’s continue our look at different types of women and situations, and how to play your cards right.
Beautiful Woman Pick-Up
You know when you see that incredibly hot number and your hands go numb? You want to say something, start a conversation… but you can barely stand or remain cogent, let alone put together a solid sentence. And if you can do that, usually all you can think to say is “My god, you are beautiful.”
Big mistake. That’s about all most guys can think to say, and trust me, truly gorgeous and attractive women are tired of hearing it. Not to mention they’re insecure about their appearance (since it becomes such a large part of their identity) and you’re liable to get yourself misunderstood. Worst case, she might actually think you’re mocking her and take offense!
Instead, if you feel the need to compliment her, comment on her energy. “Excuse me, but you have a great energy and I just wanted to talk to you.” It seems like a minor point, but by having the confidence in taking the focus off of her body and into the ephemeral, you’re separating yourself from the other hundred guys who said something to her that day – and you’re NOT talking about her body (which would nominate you for the Horny Loser Guy Award of Her Mind).
Another tact is to open by eliciting her opinion about something. Again, this is good because you’re placing the focus on her MIND and THOUGHTS – an area she feels is ignored because of her hot bod.
WITHOUT EVER kissing her ass or being extra-nice (classic wuss behavior which would tell her what you’re REALLY after) show respect and interest for her inner world – and you’ll have a great shot of getting to know her outer better.
Cold Girl Pick-Up
This lady is a classic. You know her – we all do. She is the Ice Queen Bitch. She shoots down everyone who approaches her – if you’re lucky, it’s a simple no, and if you’re unlucky, she belittles you and mentally knocks you around a bit before letting you scamper away.
Here’s the thing though: she’s probably NOT an Ice Queen Bitch. She just plays it in pick-up situations.
Odds are good that she’s attractive, or has a charisma that draws men to her like moths to matches. And so she’s dealing with dudes coming on to her. All. The. Time. And she’s sick of it.
So rather than be polite and have to suffer through multiple when-will-this-guy-leave-me-alone moments, she gets nasty off the bat. Saves her trouble – even saves the guy time, it’s a mercy killing.
Nonetheless, you’ve got to get past that initial response to find the thawed sweet person inside. How
Surprisingly, it isn’t that hard. First, position yourself near her – not facing her or anything, but within earshot. Wait for the next guy to make a play and get shot down.
If she says something cutting and witty, maybe chuckle a bit – out loud, but to yourself. And when he goes, lean in and say something like “I couldn’t help but hear that lame attempt. You must get tired of guys always hitting on you.”
She’ll probably let out an angry sigh and agree. “What’s the worst one you’ve heard today?”
She’ll launch into a story, and you can start talking about silly pick-ups you’ve heard, make fun of the guys she’s dealt with… and ta-da, you’ve just slid past her frosty defense.
Odds are, she’s lonely behind it, and she’ll be EXTREMELY grateful she’s found someone she can talk to. From there, you know what to do.
One-Night-Stand Pick-Up
This is not for the faint-of-heart, but it WILL work. Rhett Butler used to say he propositioned every woman he ever met – that way, even if only 1% respond positively, he’d never spend the night alone.
Well, this is sort of like that. Open the girl up using any of the various techniques you’ve learned throughout this book, and then QUICKLY close with “So, how would you like an orally-stimulated orgasm?” Most women will either slap you (if you’re drooling as you say it) or laugh (if you’ve delivered it right, but she’s not up for some casual sex just now).
BUT, a certain number of women will pause, think a moment, and then say “Alright, let’s go.” If you go to a club – with literally hundreds of women – and you say this to all of them, it WILL work eventually. You just need the guts and perseverance to find the right girl, in the right mood.
Hairdresser Pick-Up
First off – and this should be obvious – DON’T get your hair cut by your grand-daddy’s old war buddy. Pick a hip salon stocked with pretty young things.
Then, have a GOOD conversation. Listen, these ladies are paid to talk to you, keep you entertained while they cut your hair – the more enjoyable your experience, the bigger their tips. So she WANTS to talk for the half hour it takes to get your hair done.
The key here is – you need to make it feel like it ISN’T work, but is actually a conversation she enjoys. And that’s real simple – don’t talk about yourself the way everyone else does (and the way she herself will prompt you), but instead get her talking about HER life. YOU prompt HER. Ask her questions – start off with stuff that’s work-related, but as soon as a nugget comes in that will let you veer off into her personal life, grab it.
Then, when she’s finished up, say “I really enjoyed our chat, and I’d like to continue it. What time do you get off?” Even if she’s not available that day, if you’ve done your job right, she’ll be eager to meet you on another one. Nice score.
Derek Vitalio
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Different ladies like different things. If you can learn the best ways to trigger attraction in each type of woman, you’re going to be a very busy man.
Focusing In
We’ve been going over a number of things that will work with ANY girl, but there’s no doubt, ladies come in many flavors.
And for each of those flavors, there’s a particularly strong method of activating interest and attraction. Below, I’m going to go over a number of different types of ladies (in a number of different places), and the methods that I’ve found work best in hooking their interest.
Political Girl Pick-Up
These ladies are all over the place – demonstrations, strategy meetings, listening to speakers at events or at rallies. Their stripes are quite varied – environmentalist, feminist, peaceniks and granolas and members of the free love society. They tend to be loud, opinionated, and liberal.
They also tend to intimidate a number of men. Don’t let them! As I said, they’re liberal – in all senses of the word. Many believe in sex as entertainment or exercise or spiritual practice – anything but the traditional “only with your life partner” sort of thing. Consequently, you’ve already got a nice format to work within when you meet one of these chicks.
The key is simple: listen, listen, listen. They feel passionate about what they’re doing, and it’s rare they find anyone to talk about it with – outside their fellow activists. They’re dying to talk about this stuff – they know the facts down cold, they’re convinced they’re on the right track (and usually the rest of the world is either blind, ignorant, or stupid), and – the key – NO ONE likes to hear them go on and on.
So you let them. In fact, you encourage them. I met a girl protesting against nuclear waste. I started up a conversation about alternative energy, and we were off and running. While we were still going strong I said “Listen, I’ve gotta go, but this is really interesting. Let’s get together for coffee continue this.”
We did, and after we’d had our fill of solar cells, I guided the conversation to sexier subjects. Bear in mind, of course, that the whole time I kept it PLAYFUL – but didn’t tease at her core beliefs much if at all. Keep it fun and positive and good things will happen.
Young Girls Pick-Up
Alright, this is simple. When you’re dealing with someone significantly younger than you (say you’re 31 and she’s 20) then you want to avoid getting into anything DEEP. She might seem kind of superficial to you – that’s simply because she hasn’t had enough experience to get life depth.
So, keep it light, airy even. Treat her like your little brat sister who you tease mercilessly but you both know you love her just the same. Do lots of fun things, fun activities. Keep the movement and energy high – and then, when you find a quiet moment, fill it with that kiss.
Oh, and don’t be scared to highlight your experience. Say you’re talking about some aspect of sex – young girls in general LOVE to talk about sex – and she says “Oh, I’ve never done that.”
Feel free to give her a sly look and respond with something like “Well we’ll have to teach you then. It’s a necessary ingredient for any good repertoire – and you’ll LOVE it.” Say it in such a way she isn’t sure if you’re propositioning her or not – leave her guessing. Ideally, she should be wondering if a sophisticate like yourself is really serious about getting intimate with a young lady like herself.
And you want her to keep wondering. Remember, treat her like a young brat, always having fun, but like she’s not ready to handle the likes of YOU.
Then, when the moment comes, take FIRM CONTROL. For all the idiots out there, that doesn’t mean manhandle or assault. Jerk.
That means you GUIDE her, you don’t ask for permission, you stay in control of the entire encounter, and lead her to and through her dream fantasy of being taught the ways of love by an older more experienced man.
Be that man.
Young Lady with Baby Pick-Up
A lot of guys, once they see a woman has a kid (or kids), they freak and run away. A number of things add to this – they’re scared there’s a father lurking nearby and they’ll be treated like a camper getting between a mother bear and her cubs. They’re also scared that they’ll be volunteered as the dad, and that isn’t an attractive prospect.
The truth of the matter in the modern world is, a lot of women are single mothers. Especially the young ones. And, if you don’t have the moral qualms, a number of young ones are attached – but unhappily, as a result of the kid.
Not to mention, when they’ve got a young kid, they’re suffering from the sudden change to motherhood. They still yearn for carefree party days, they miss them, but they’ve got all this new responsibility that keeps them up nights and most guys suddenly don’t want to know them.
Potent. These ladies are sitting ducks.
Know the old saying “Love me, love my babies.” That’s the key right there. Use the kid as your opening, talk about what a cute kid the lady has, throw the compliments around liberally where the child is concerned.
This is wonderful because it doesn’t seem like a pick-up at all, and it’ll open up a conversation where you find out about her love life, as well (if you don’t want to pursue the attached women of the world).
Then, you can transition to talking about how her life has changed, how she doesn’t get to go out as much as she used to – and, as if you just thought of it on the spot, say something like “You know what, you deserve a reward. This Tuesday let your mom watch your baby and we’ll go do something fun – something like you USED to do.”
This method will work pretty damn well.
More to come.
Derek Vitalio
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